Month: May 2020

One of the feelings I often experience is that of abandonment. Having experienced traumatic events in my childhood it makes sense that I would experience feelings of abandonment as very harmful and unwanted. My addictive behaviors were my attempt to avoid feeling abandoned. I believed pornography, alcohol, and exercise could take away the abandonment I … Continue reading Abandon Yourself to God

When I first joined a 12 Step group to overcome my addiction to pornography, I remember another member speaking with his sponsee after the meeting asking him to say the words "I love my addiction". At the time, I believed this was very harsh, but now, after years of recovery work under my belt, I … Continue reading Detachment from Sin through Confession

My first sponsor always emphasized defining terms because it helped one to understand the importance of that term in relation to my current circumstances. The word surrender is a very important term to define because it is critical to progressive victory over lust and our addiction. So what does it mean to surrender? Some may … Continue reading I Surrender

I just recently heard in a homily that forgiveness is the acid test of discipleship. My lack of forgiveness is directly related to my willingness to love and serve others, the command given by Christ to be a disciples. To love and serve those that love us back is easy, but to love and serve … Continue reading Forgiveness Frees Us To Love